DR. TRAVIS FOX, PhD, DCH

In taking the weekend to focus completely on the chasing the dream (#7), it occurred to me that time is the most valuable asset I had and yet had none of; specifically,  I had the option to choose what to do with "my" time, yet I don't really know how much of it I really "have" to work with on chasing the dream, work, play, hell life itself!

 This brought me to an interesting thought, while I do not profess that this thought is new (perhaps it really is this time as you read it) rather it is what the Buddhist's call "Seeing things as they are" while most of us in our "Sleep walking state" see things as we would "like them to be" or "ignoring what is there in hopes it will go away" (which is my favorite, LOL - has that ever worked for anyone really?)

How much time does one really have here on Earth? Moreover and here is the big one early Monday morning, "if you KNEW you only had 30 years, 20 years or 1 year, would you live your life different than you are now?

For most the answer is a resounding "YES i would!" It further dawned on me, that if most believe and feel that way, what is the "real" reason for not doing that from the beginning and truly chase the dreams?

Example: this weekend I was just hitting some balls on the range and enjoying the weather, when a new employee of our home club in Palm Desert, came up and introduced himself to me. Nice young man and we spoke for a few minutes. I discovered that he is professional golfer with a dream to get on the Nationwide Tour or PGA Tour and was only "here" to "pay the bills" until he could get enough money to "chase his dream." While this on the surface sounds noble and humble and well laid of plans, it presented itself to me completely different. Upon further discussions, he had no children, not married, a car and some student loans, ok those need to be paid back, i get it. However, what was he doing to "draw" people to him, excite people about his dream or engaging in something that would continue the "flow" that orignally caused him to want to chase his dream? Overall.... little! His time was being spent chasing, well honestly paying a bill. Now I am not saying we all don't have bills to pay, we do and your word is your word to pay them. (hence why our world and country is such horrible place debt, not seeing and buying things as you can vs. on "borrowed time" or DEBT!)

I challenged him that he could, by the end of the season here in the desert, write down his dream, draw people to him that would like his energy, his enthusiasm and want to be a part of helping him chase his dream, as they had attained theirs and this was something they enjoyed. However, if he was not willing to "Chase" it, believe in it and let nothing, including himself, stop him from getting that dream, then who else would believe in him or his dream?

All of us had had others who have helped each of us live a dream, even if in small part. So today ask yourself, what is the dream I am wiling to chase with what little time I have? For if you answered above you would live your life differently, based on a limited time, then see things as they are, you have LIMITED time, further do not even know your limit, thus better start now! Write it down, a small one, like someone buying me a cup of coffee, someone who would introduce me to another job or connection you might be seeking or someone to finance my dream and be my backer or partner (like our young man above) and then sit for 5 minutes every two hours and dream about it and use your time at work, more wisely! Believe me it does work,  it does happen and if you need to "prove" it to yourself then start ultra small and do so, for again if you do not believe in your dream, no one else will; thus you must believe it as we say,  "All the way through your blood and bones!"

Check it out and let me know your thoughts here and pass the word about chasing your dream, like I am and let's all use, experience and live our life as though time was limited, for it truly is!

Freedom in Spirit,
Dr. Fox

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During yesterday's experience with one of my coaches, while chasing dream #7, we played some golf together and were discussing how we were going to chase the dream, plans need to be laid out and more over "What" are we doing this for. All good things.

 As the time progressed, it occured to me I was working far harder the he was. It was not for a lack of talent as we are both very seasoned at golf, it was not due to physical conditioning again, we are both in good shape (especially for his age ha!) so what was it? He was not dealing with mental issues, that apparently, I was.     

When we started discussing it, I had a flashback from when I was 11. (Yes, that was a while ago, shut up! ;) ) I flashed back to asking my Father for some "Balata Balls" to play in a tournament. For those of you who do not know golf, Balata Balls back then were the best balls on the market, all tournament professionals played them. There was just one draw back, if you miss hit any shot the ball would be cut and ultimately ruined. Thus, you could go through a sleeve (3) of balls per round or more. However, they were so soft, that you could spin and work the ball, thus creating more opportunities to score and perhaps win the competition. It would be compared to a mountain bike's tires. If you place those skinny racing tires on a mountain bike, like Lance Armstrong uses, you probably will blow a few tires. Yet if you place the normal mountain bike tires on the bike you may blow a tire or two but you will get a lot further with the proper equipment.

As I was flashing back, during this round to the "Balata Balls" it occurred to me, I have a subconscious program (a voice in my head) that says "I have to work twice as hard, in order to get the same results." This voice had not showed up, to my knowledge in some years (you do the math! lol) only now on the course when i needed my mindset to be in attack mode, to score well. Rather I was in the mode of "working" at the game, instead of playing it and was getting my butt kicked! I had found out that due to my Father's "Frugalness" (ha he was cheap, I'll say it) he placed a program in me saying you will just have to work hard, with less. While, all the other boys had nice shiney new clubs and Balata Balls I was playing clubs I had to build myself and "DT" balls (very hard and rarely cut, but hard to control and of course cheaper) and feeling "Less than." (Children are masters at "Teasing" and making you feel "Less than" or separate)

Needless to say, i have been working and changing that mindset all night and have done so. Today look at yourself, your partner or your children and are you subconsciously telling them "you are not worthy of a Balata Ball?" I am not saying spoil them but if you can and it is only couple of bucks, which is more important; saving the couple of bucks now or spending thousands of hours and time on therapy later when they have to work out (hopefully they do) their self worth issues? 

I am lucky enough to have the skills to change that mindset instantly but it took 20 years to master the "mental" game that I now coach on. So you could say it was my Karma with my Father, yes that could be true, however aren't your parents supposed to help you become well balanced adults? Afterall, Dad is the one who got me into golf, only to then handcuff my play by then not supporting my success? That my friends is a mixed message and children will unknownly take the strongest message they recieve and make it a "life long program." For if mom/dad say it is so it must be, as they take care of me is the logic they arrive at.

Hug those around you, tell them they are worthy of their dreams, support them all in you can in all ways, even if it just means letting them know they are worthy of "Balata Balls" if even you can't afford them, telling them you BELIEVE is worth more than anything.

Until next time, I am Still chasing Dream #7, thanks for reading.

Dr.Fox

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I know most of you know about dreams, no not the ones you have a night, although they could be interesting too. Rather, I am taking about the ones that you always wanted to chase, experience and tell stories about; true adventure with all its ups and downs.

Well I too have them and I am chasing one of my top 10 dreams of all time. I will not completely disclose the totally and scope of this particular dream, however I am inviting anyone and everyone to join in and watch, moreover inspire you, to chase at least one of your own.

I will provide updates here on the blog that will show, my thoughts, remedies, ups and downs chasing this dream over the next six months, win or lose, pass or fail, this is an all out assault on those who say, "your too old," "your time as past" or my personal favorite "You got grow up sometime!" (says who?)

Today is day 1, really day 3, but day 1 of reporting. I have changed my diet and am on a strict 1600 calorie a day intake. This one tastes good, by the way and it is keeping my body in a highly tuned state of attention. (We will need that later!)

 Started P90X, the greatest exercise program ever invented and am also doing mediation and/0r Tai Chi daily for some of the mental aspects. ( Those will be need later too!)

I have asked two friends of mine, coaches in their own rights to assist me in chasing dream #7 and today I meet with both of them separately. I will let you know who they are once and if they give me permission, as it is their choice on that, not mine. (Even coaches need coaches, including me!)

What is your dream #7 of your top #10? Reply to this post with you dream #7 and let's help ALL of us chase our own dreams, while assisting in others chasing theirs!


 Dr.Fox

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